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Published on: November 11, 2017

6 Easy Ways to Build Self-Confidence

Venn Crawford

Sometimes we feel like life has chewed us up and spit us out on the pavement. Perhaps your confidence was shattered by career problems, loss, or an abusive relationship. Maybe you’re just having a slew of bad luck and aren’t sure how to turn things around. Either way, you can build self-confidence by taking control of your life and exercising your ability to change it.

Make Small, Reachable Goals

Building self-confidence takes time, so don’t pressure yourself to feel like a rock star immediately. Yes, we want to change. We want our lives to be better, and we’ve listed out all the ways to do that. But if we try to change every bad habit at once, we won’t succeed. We’ll be proud for two days, then eventually it will feel like too much. The bigger the effort required, the easier it is for us to allow ourselves to “forget” to do it.

Published on: October 31, 2017

How to Be Single Again: Living and Loving Yourself

Venn Crawford

by Woodruff Family Law Group

Last week, we discussed embracing change as a part of recovering from a breakup or divorce. Today I’d like to suggest a change which helped me tremendously – learning how to love yourself.

Yes, it sounds vague and empty. People always tell you that “you need to love yourself,” but they never tell you how to do that. Personally, I’m not sure half the people who say it know how to do it anyways.

It’s Easy to Love Others

Published on: October 28, 2017

How to be Single Again: Letting Change Happen

Venn Crawford

by Woodruff Family Law Group

In college, I had a roommate whose world shattered every time she went through a breakup. She always blamed herself, couldn’t cope with being single again, and ended up convinced she was at fault. Most of those breakups were with the same on-again-off-again boyfriend.

It wasn’t just the one roommate either. My second roommate was self-obsessed. She partied at least four nights a week, modeled for fashion photography, and regularly posted pictures of herself holding champagne and dressed to kill. Despite appearances, she was suffering from bulimia and feelings of low self-worth. She flirted with men for validation and then couldn’t figure out why they never stuck around.

The first roommate would get back with her boyfriend shortly after each breakup. It never worked out. The second lived in a cycle of obsession and disappointment with her boy toys.

Published on: June 15, 2017

My Dreams

Carolyn Woodruff

by Woodruff Family Law Group

In my dreams, I dance

I can be who I want to be

Where I want to be

Published on: May 9, 2017

Comes from the Heart: DIY Mother’s Day Gifts

Kam Hardy

by Woodruff Family Law Group

This Mother’s Day give your Mom a gift that lets her know just how loved she is!

A string of pearls is nice. A boutique of flowers is beautiful. Give you mother a gift from the heart, something homemade, something no one else can give her! Give your mom a gift you made with your hands; she will treasure this forever!

Not creative? Need some ideas on what homemade gift would be perfect for your mom? Look no further, here are a few of the best homemade mother’s gifts to surely make your mom, wife or grandmother feel special on their day.

Published on: May 9, 2017

The Love of A Mother

Kam Hardy

by Woodruff Family Law Group

I think it goes without saying that mothers have the most rewarding job there is. Ask almost any mother, and they will tell you, motherhood is exhausting, challenging, and messy and, the most beautiful journey of life.

There are so many different kinds of moms out there, the working mom, the stay-at-home mom, the single mom, the yoga mom, the blogging mom, and the mom that will do anything to provide for her children.

Mothers are all different and all the same. Mothers have the most dedicated work ethic. Mother’s dedicate their life to create, teach, love and support all of your dreams and all your journeys. They may never show you they struggle or are in pain. A mother’s compassion for the well-being of their children is astounding.

Published on: May 2, 2017

Divorce Recovery

Carolyn Woodruff

by Woodruff Family Law Group

Divorce Recovery–this is a topic that is so dear to my heart, and one I have personally experienced. I am empathic to the unsettled souls that walk into my office. My advice–You will be okay after divorce, even if you feel like you won’t be. You could be happier than ever; I am.

 One important thing to understand is that divorce, like any loss, is a grieving process. You will go through all the stages–denial, anger, maybe depression, complacency and then back to normalcy. Unfortunately, you and your ex-spouse are usually at different stages; this often makes the process that much harder.

During this recovery process would be an excellent time to seek mental health counseling. Counseling can help ensure you don’t get stuck in any one stage too long. Talking with a counselor can help with things such as finding a new hobby or getting you out of the house. Hobbies are fun and are a great way to keep your mind off your current pain. Plus you now have the time!

Published on: May 2, 2017

In The BEST Interest of The Child

Carolyn Woodruff

by Woodruff Family Law Group

In the best interest of the child–these are the magic words in North Carolina and part of our Mission Statement at Woodruff Family Law Group.

It is always best if the parents can agree in either negotiation or mediation; however, that is not always the case. My suggestion is that the parents get on a schedule!

Getting on a schedule is especially important when your child or children are young. If two parents can simply not agree on a schedule and exchanges are becoming unbearable, I would suggest professional and legal help.